In a society preoccupoed with how best to raise a child
I’m finding a need to mesh what’s best for my children with what’s
necesary for a well balanced mother.
I’m recognizing that ceaseless giving translates into giving yourself
And, when you give yourself away, you’re not a healthy mother and
you’re not a healthy self.
So, now I’m learning to be a woman first and a mother second.
I’m learning to just experience my own emotions
Without robbing my children of their individual dignity by feeling
their emotions too.
I’m learning that a healthy child will have his own set of emotions
and characteristics that are his alone.
And, very different from mine.
I’m learning the importance of honest exchanges of feelings because
pretenses don’t fool children,
They know their mother better than she knows herself.
I’m learning that no one overcomes her past unless she confronts it.
Otherwise, her children will absorb exactly what she’s attempting to
I’m learning that words of wisdom fall on deaf ears if my actions
contradict my deeds.
Children tend to be better impersonators than listeners.
I’m learning that life is meant to be filled with as much sadness and
pain as happiness and pleasure.
And allowing ourselves to feel everything life has to offer is an
indicator of fulfillment.
I’m learning that fulfillment can’t be attained through giving myself
But, through giving to myself and sharing with others,
I’m learning that the best way to teach my children to live a fulfilling
life is not by sacrificing my life.
It’s through living a fulfilling life myself.
I’m trying to teach my children that I have a lot to learn
Because I’m learning that letting go of them
Is the best way of holding on.
~ Christiane Northrup, M.D. in Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom
I’m sharing this tonight as I struggle with being a parent. I’ve never done this (parenting) before and it is hard. I want to do my best with them, but I also don’t want to get lost in the process or lose them in the process. I don’t want to push my baggage onto them as it is not theirs to carry. I want them to create their own life – full and rich, creative and alive. And I want that for myself as well. Mothering . . . best and most difficult job I’ve ever had.
I think about posting to this blog every single day. But I don’t post anything for a variety of reasons that I will share with you now:
1. I would like to rev-vamp our website so it looks more appealing and professional and beautiful
2. Is what I have to share even meaningful?
3. Who is “wandering to wellness” and what do we want to bring to the world?
4. What if I make a typo?
5. What if I’m too vulnerable?
6. Etc, etc, etc. I could go on, but you get the idea
So I don’t post my bread experiment and I don’t post some other great recipes that I have found and I don’t post my amazingly deep thoughts and I simply don’t post. I am stuck between this place of wanting perfection and wanting it to be something so amazing that the blog will take off like wild fire. But it will never be perfect and it will never take off if I don’t start posting my recipes, experiments and random thoughts about life.
For the last few yoga classes that I have taught, I have shared cards from Danielle LaPorte’s Truth Bomb Deck. This morning as I opened the box to share a few cards with my students, the card that was on top was this:
I will take this as a sign and will start posting and putting myself out there and all of the other things will come in time.
Choose to expand
Feeding your soul is just as important as the food you put in your body.
We spend a week in Montana every summer. Both Ryan and I grew up in Polson, Montana on the southern end of Flathead Lake. Every year we make a trek back to the homeland for some much needed time away from our busy lives. This year has been different, as both of our extended families have been in town as well. It has been more difficult on this trip to capture the space that I have been craving. So today I am up early to watch the sun rise over the majestic Mission Mountains and to take some time to watch the clouds roll by and to notice my place on this planet. We are all part of this beautiful Universe and taking the time to notice and bask in the glorious stillness of the early morning nourishes my soul.
How do you take moments to feed your soul? Please share with us!
Bread. We all love it, but for most of us, it doesn’t love us and we don’t even realize it. There are lots of varied explanations for this that someone else can go into (Grain Brain & Grain Maker by David Perlmutter, Wheat Belly by William Davis as well as many others), but I want to share with you a little story.
Since I was 10 years old I have had seasonal cluster/migraine headaches. They come on really fast and there is no way to prepare for the onset as I wake up in the middle of the night writhing in pain. It is so aweful that I am afraid to go to bed at night! I’ve consulted with a variety of doctors and specialists and they can diagnose me and offer prescription drugs, but there has never been anyone that has offered preventative measures. I have been able to manage these headaches and eventually get off the prescription drugs as whatever it is in my environment that triggers the headaches subsides. I have tried lots of different things while managing with headache medications: chiropractic care, massage therapy, acupuncture, all of which seem to contribute to my getting back on my feet. Eventually, the headaches run their course and I go back to “normal” life. During the last round of headaches, I decided to see a naturopath (the same one that Ryan has been seeing over the years). She did some bloodwork and asked me to commit to going off all grains for three months. Now I’ve gone off of gluten, but ALL grains (rice, corn, wheat, teff)? It was a lot to ask, but I committed to taking on this challenge. And I failed. One day in particular, I remember that I made some homemade pesto and I was ready to enjoy some gluten free pasta with this yummy pesto. This gluten free pasta was made from rice, corn and soy. Ten minutes after my meal, I was writhing in pain. That is when I decided to take this challenge of going off all grains seriously. I committed and I was able to do it for a few months (and then we went on vacation and I broke the chain, but I have jumped right back on as soon as we got home). I truly believe that eating grains triggers my headaches. It’s like there are toxins that directly link to my brain and the headaches ensue. I think for most of the year, I can process these toxins, but when there is a higher level of stress in my life and/or there is a ton of pollen or molds in the air, my body just cannot handle processing all that I am throwing at it and subsequently reacts with the worst headaches ever. I’m sure that there are more technical terms for what is happening in my body and my head, but this is what I believe and it has helped me to resolve going off grains. There is one side effect of this “prescription” . . . I have slimmed down quite a bit which is a side effect that I think most people can live with (:
All of this to say . . . there are preventative solutions to health problems. We simply have to be willing to feed out bodies well. And eating well is different for everyone, as I am learning (as Ryan learns in his IIN courses, I also learn – one of the many benefits of being this man’s partner and wife!).
My next post will be about my experimentation with grain free bread recipes. Yes, I have been baking and I have pictures to prove it!
Thank you to all of you who have been faithful followers! We have not had a personal post (althought we have shared articles on facebook from time to time), for quite a while. My hope is to post more regularly to allow you to share in our random wanderings to wellness!
Ryan and I have been on our journey to wellness over the past few years. As we wander toward wellness, we have taken this journey together and at the same time have had separate paths.
The current state of affairs:
Ryan continues to work in the software industry, but has also taken a step toward pursuing something more. He enrolled in with Institute for Integrative Nutrition (IIN) in March to become a health coach. He has been learning and listening and studying all that goes into becoming a health coach. The information that he is learning is invaluable and I cannot wait for him to begin sharing some of this information with all of you in the coming months.
I had been working part-time, but this spring I (with the love and support of my husband) decided that it was time to focus on our family more fully and recommit to helping all of us step into a healthier and more balanced life (at least this is my hope). I am also teaching yoga and meditation at our local YMCA and I continue to teach yoga and kids yoga at Hot Yoga Experience. At this point in time, I feel really blessed to be able to spend time carting kids to various activities, forcing them to go on hikes with me and doing all that I can to build a good foundation in my relationship with our children.
There is more that we will share with you over time . . . but I think this is sufficient for now.
Life is a roller coaster.
Day at Disneyland – June 2016.
I am grateful to share our experiences with you!
Sincerely - Maribeth
I recently read a book, Grain Brain by David Perlmutter.
Each and every person should try going off of gluten for 2-3 months and see what impact it has on their life.
That sounds dumb, Ryan! Why would I go off of it if I don’t have any health issues and eating it doesn’t cause a noticeable reaction?
Ah.. I’m so glad you asked this question! Let me tell you why I speak such dumbese. Today’s gluten isn’t your ancestor’s gluten. In fact, it hasn’t been since around 1950. Our society has been tweaking wheat genetically without really understanding the long term effects of it on mankind. Well… the data is flooding in and things aren’t looking so good. Let’s not even include the folks with Celiac’s disease in this, also known as gluten intolerance, also know as folks who have an acute allergic reaction to the consumption of gluten. This is a small percentage of the population and this seems to be the only time the main stream medical community takes gluten issues seriously. I’m talking about everybody else here… yes! I’m talking about you (and me)!
I want to talk about the rest of the spectrum that is usually referred to as ‘gluten sensitivity’. I used to think that this spectrum was confined to those that had some degree of mild allergic reaction to eating gluten. That it had to cause your digestive tract to become inflamed to some degree to even warrant a discussion about cutting out gluten. This book has convinced me that I was wrong. The spectrum is so broad. I can hear you all chanting in Match Game style “How broad is it?” It is so broad that it seems to include everyone to some degree.
This book talks about studies tying gluten to brain degenerative disorders like dementia, Alzheimer’s, Parkinsons, MS and many other of your lifestyle altering favorites like anxiety/depression, chronic headaches, ADHD and many more. This information, coupled with all the data tying gluten sensitivity to autoimmune disorders (see yours truly), makes an overwhelming argument for a person to at least try going off of gluten for a period of time and see how their amazing body responds.
I have been off of gluten for over a year and my results are pretty well documented on this blog. I have helped to inspire others to try this (my mother and my wife to name a couple) and while it is early, everyone has experienced positive change. Some of the short term results are brain fog disappearing, bellies/butts slimming down in a way that exercise hasn’t touched, faces/skin clearing up. I will report back on the long term effects as they become more clear.
My challenge to all of you is this. Don’t ignore this! I know you like yourself some bread and some pasta. I was at the top of the gluten enjoying pyramid. You can go without this in your life. It isn’t as big of a deal as it seems right now. It also might be the best decision you can make for your future and your family’s future! JUST TRY IT! Start today… start right now.
Here is a great article on a person going vegan for 30 days. Very insightful if you have ever considered or are currently considering.
This is a very interesting watch. I think this has a lot to do with what I have had to overcome. I have taken the drastic food route this video mentions (with some of the probiotic route). It has a product push at the end, which is what it is… but I really think the information is important in here. Please take a watch! (Also, I don’t agree with the portion of this that alludes to you not changing your diet at all)
The American Parasite
PLEASE make it “Food Matters” (Available for streaming on Netflix). View Trailer Here
I can hear most of you now:
“That sounds REALLY interesting…” , ”Why would I want to sit and watch a movie about food?”
Well I say to that, You have NOTHING to lose and EVERYTHING to gain!
The information is out there on how to live a healthy, vibrant life… we just all need to become aware of it.
I was completely oblivious to how much this matters, until I was diagnosed with a chronic illness. My eyes have been opened and I wish nothing more than to help others see the information that I have seen. Our society is going in the wrong direction. It is time to empower yourself and TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for your present and future and your children’s present and future.
We have become too accustomed to eating the wrong foods, please, please, please watch this movie and start eating the right foods. Your future, your family’s future, mankind’s future depends on it! Please watch the movie and reply with your comments!!